Being the single one? Good heavens, this could leave you questioning life, your existence and what it is you’re ACTUALLY doing on this planet. Who am I? What’s my name? Who are my friends? What am I having for lunch? Why do I want this for lunch? Why are there so many decisions in life? And my absolute favourite: What am I doing with my life?
Don’t worry, I find myself asking these questions a few times a day, and quite frankly, I don’t really have an answer.
And then, the most asked question by other people: So why are you single?
And something we probably all find ourselves thinking is: Hmmm, because no one will date me, maybe?
Because we don’t really have an answer to that one either. What a clueless bunch of Dipsy’s we are!
Or maybe we are single because we haven’t quite fallen in love with ourselves yet, but then again, I know that you know that we know of people, who know people who are in relationships, that aren’t quite happy with themselves to begin with. So what is it, Universe? How exactly is it meant to go? Do we REALLY need to love ourselves to find someone to love us too? What a confusing world we live in!
Let’s start with the basics: Being single can be so much fun. Well, at least people make it out to be that way.
When we are single, we are seen as free. Free to go out, do what we want. We are allowed to hook up with whoever we’d like, flirt with anyone and everyone, party, grab people’s numbers (and their asses?), chat, meet up, flirt some more, and so it goes on. Like I said, when we are single, we are free. Free to do whoever and whatever we like. We aren’t owned by anyone. We are our own.
Being the single Pringle out of your group of friends can be a challenge to say the least.
We might find ourselves faced with two different groups of friends, during our stay in SingleVille. Firstly, we have the ones who include the single friends. You guys are the absolute gems – the pearlers in life!! Quite frankly, you’re on the same level of importance as a glass of wine is after a disgusting day at work. Noddy badge to you, all the way!
Then we have the ones who don’t include the singletons.
It’s almost as though they’re too smitten to see past the infatuation of their significant other. When you’re in a relationship, one starts mixing with their other half’s friends. You start going out with them, building other friendships with their friends, their families, maybe even their work partners, whoever it may be. This seems to become a routine. A routine so stuck, that one almost becomes oblivious to the other people around them, nevermind the old friendships that are being excluded.
When you have realised that pretty much all your friends are in relationships, except you, you might find yourself feeling alone. You might want to go out there with the confidence of a bull and make new friends, but that MIGHT be difficult if you don’t have friends to go out with when every Tom, Dick and Harry are in a relationship.
Being the single one can either break you, or make you, as cliché as it sounds. It can break you emotionally in the sense that you might find yourself feeling alone, needy, or simply just missing a “friend”. Or, the situation could encourage a lonely Leony to put on her big girl panties, get up off the couch and conquer the world, or maybe just the day. Let’s not get ahead of ourselves!!!
Come to think of it, maybe all the occupants in SingleVille haven’t quite finished their stay yet. Maybe they’re comfortable and don’t feel the need to upgrade to the land of the “taken”. Maybe your one way ticket to that destination hasn’t quite arrived because you’re headed in a different direction, or maybe, the timing just isn’t right.
Many of us wonder why we are the single one’s, but don’t realise that there is a reason. A reason so far beyond what we are capable of understanding. You see, the universe works in mysterious ways. She speaks a language of her own. A language that we simply do not understand. We can try, but we will not understand.
If you are the single one out of your friends, it’s okay. We need to realise that whatever happens, whoever we meet and whatever we do, is meant to be that way. If we lose friends through their relationships, it’s okay. If we gain friends through not being in a relationship, that too, is okay.
Don’t be THAT twit that goes day to day in search of Mr Yes, Mr No or Mr Maybe.
Realise that you are the perfect one for yourself right now. You tick all of your own boxes. In fact, you tick them better than what anyone else ever can.
And that’s not so bad now, is it?